- The key to overcoming anxiety isn't to get rid of it, but to be indifferent to it - Accept it - ex) Be nervous, but let that nervousness fuel your desire to excel - Gradually increase exposure or force yourself to feel the fear of extreme situations - Hold hand -> Arm around -> Cheek kiss -> Kiss - Be sure to only focus on one thing at a time - Know when to move on to the next stage - Make sure you aren't regressing - [[Mortality salience]] anxiety is [[Parasitic processing]] - our power of the cognition being two way like this is the possibility for suffering cured by inner dialogue, look to the sage, a role model that we internalize. for example jung's active imagination, acting like jesus, being moved by text. this requires empathy, internalize inner perspective of others, as well as indwelling - perceiving the pen yourself to figure it out