- Let people know if they said something offensive - Make sure that the boundaries you set are actually yours [[Empaths don't know boundaries]] less time spent less intimate or cant talk about certain topics https://www.reddit.com/r/TheGirlSurvivalGuide/comments/y94zui/how_to_not_be_a_doormat_a_guide_to_defining_your/ Doormatting has an aspect of manipulation and control being so nice affords you to gaslight hidden motives cause a lack of closeness which is creepiness doormats cant say no, rsd boundaries should be intrinsic and ultimately controllable by you "Say how you're feeling" + "Create the boundary" + "Communicate the consequence". being open minded makes boundaries difficult