Common trivial qualities we assess partners on: - Money - A salary above 75k/year does not ensure a greater emotional well-being - Richness is subjective - Good looks - Appearance matters in life success - Appearance is just short-term, qualities stay ! - We will eventually be accustomed to their appearance, making it less attractive - Our attraction to apperance is survival-based, as it allows time for the child to mature before we lose interest in our partner - It's cool to have, just make sure it doesn't make someone a turn off - A similar personality > Northwestern professor and marriage expert Eli Finkel, he said, “There is no correlation between how satisfied or how happy you are with a relationship and how similar your personalities are.” In other words, we make our potential pool of partners smaller by mistakenly eliminating people who are not similar enough to us. - Would we want to date ourselves? - Think of someone who can complement your own character - Shared hobbies - Make sure you're giving space hehe - Other Significant Other - It's virtually impossible to have all your hobbies and needs met by one person, so have other people fill the gaps - Not being interested in certain things does not mean they are a bad partner - It allows them to stay secure and focus on what they're best at