- Communication can easily be misinterpreted, so it's important to learn how to express ourselves clearly - Flirting is the opposite of [[Creepiness]] - Flirting is expressing your [[Sexuality]] to a woman that makes her feel secure in reciprocating her sexuality back - Sexual tension is associated with the uncertainty of potential sexual possibilities in an interaction - Intriguing - Teasing creates tension since they aren't sure whether you're interested in them - Negative teasing conveys positive intentions behind negative words, creating uncertainty - Hence why playing "hard to get" is effective since it builds tension - "I think you're beautiful, I'd like to take you on a date" builds sexual tension: - Polarizing - Aroused by attention and a feeling of importance - Demonstrates non-neediness - Huge uncertainty as there is a lot of potential sexual intentions with that statement ## Sexual initiative > regarding sexual initiative: there are a few separate concepts at play here; the speed at which sex is introduced into a relationship, and who initiates sex once it's introduced and how often. The answer to the first is to be transparent about your needs and desires, and to communicate interest in the way that fits you but to nonetheless clearly communicate interest. The answer to the second is to be deliberate about finding someone who has about as much libido as you do, and to not force them into a position of being the only one who initiates, because this will have the consequence of making them feel you do not find them desirable, which is bad news all around. The idea of gendering this is also nonsense. - This makes me inclined to believe that there should be no judgment in order to listen to both sides and come up with some compromise. I think it's not insanely taboo to ask about it early in a theoretical fashion, but actual specifics should obviously be saved for when your relationship with them matches. And that compromise is dependent on how much you two value it.