- you drift apart from friends because instead of creating more shared experiences its just catch ups - always have some activity - no but i realized that some friends don't need to have similar values as me. I'm starting to play games every day with my old gaming friend (probably longest friend I have consistently kept in touch with but with the purpose of playing games) and he's not as curious or ambitious but it's just nice to have someone who share's a similar skill and passion for games. initially I wanted to find someone who was both intellectual and a gamer but I don't think it's a necessity - how to know if someone who is different to you is worthy of being friends - curiosity - open-mindedness - determine one-sidedness through trust - I usually try to optimize the quality of people in my life, but I realized if you really care about the act of being a friend, you would spend that energy just learning to appreciate the potential friends you can already make - It's okay to be friends with people who are not similar - Everyone has their own strengths, and you can have levels of relationships to complement that - It doesn't have to be black or white - [[Relationships improve happiness and wellbeing]] ## Qualities - [[Building lifelong friends for self-actualization]] - ![[Look for People Who Likes the Illegible You of Today, Not Your Past Achievements#^1zlhz2]]