A state of survival where we feel a need to make up for what we are lacking. - Funny how that fits well with the purpose of make-up LMAO - Other mode is [[Being mode]] Causes us to never be present with ourselves, which can be considered [[Mindlessness]] Wanting implies a lack of something. [[Desire]] is a contract to not be happy until you get what you want. As a result of the pursuit of more, we fail to express [[Gratitude]] when in the [[Being mode]]. Instead, we pursue endless wanting as we chase more. This makes us view the [[Present moment]] as a bridge to a future moment, promoting impatience, stress, and frustration. This is bad if you have an antagonistic view on the world, as we generalize it to think the world is against us. But at the same time, always having your needs filled like being a spoiled child or living in a palace always keeps you in "having" mode. Instead, we need to transcend the need for desire by practicing [[Mindfulness]] to promote [[Detachment]]. [[Having mode mistakes being as a being]] Categorical - a cup is objectified - it reminds you of other ones and is replacable. the same mindset is not ideal for a partner. you are not trying to manipulate, you are not assuming, you are in a process, similar to [[Wu-wei]]