When we grow up with narcissistic or codependent parents it becomes our responsiblity to manage their emotions for them This makes us believe that when we love someone, we proces their energy for them This trains us to be attuned to people's emotions But in reality, it's hard to maintain this without feeling burnt out, especially if you don't really get it from anyone else i think for me the codependence is relevant, it's shaped my overworrying for other people's feelings