- Presence is intimacy - Vulnerabillity + responsiveness = intimacy - Needs a mix of both - Responsiveness is from validation and understanding - [[Relate to feelings not facts]] - It's important to respond to vulnerability in a way that they understand, based on [[Love languages]] - Relationships are more likely to end due to a lack of emotions rather than an abundance of negative emotions - [[Crafting the ideal date]] - ![[After Socrates Episode 11 - Proper Proportions & the Right Mode Dr. John Vervaeke#^bd0icv]] - 🥲 ## Factors - Intimacy comes from experiences, not just conversation - mutual participation - Oxytocin fosters intimacy, not universal connectedness - ![[Transcend#^3bf1p1]] - ![[Transcend#^573550]] - ![[Transcend#^jz0il5]] ## Benefits - Connection is required for human development - ![[Transcend#^ias9eh]] - If you isolate yourself in your pursuits of [[Self-Actualization]], then you are hindering yourself from fully growing - ex) fake monkey mothers made children lack social functions ## Examples - In partners there's an emotional bond that even affects physical sensations - ![[Transcend#^sdod2q]] - ![[Transcend#^qb5w1j]]