- when you're more interested in having your crush fulfill some idea you have in your mind more than you care about meeting the person in front of you exactly as they are, you know it's limerence - see [[Love vs limerence]] - 3-36 months ## Phases - [https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-three-phases-of-limerence/](https://livingwithlimerence.com/the-three-phases-of-limerence/) - Infatuation - Crystallization - Deterioration ## Dealing - Can turn into real [[Love]] - Can become a cycle that never ends and turns into a secure relationship