--- ## Notes - [[Society does not care about your identity, but more about it produces for other people]] - I really enjoyed the closer video - puts into perspective the mindset and environment for people to pull of such high performance - This whole article is just about people pleasing for external validation lmao - I don't know if it's a good or bad thing though hmm - Like it is true and it is relevant for seeing traditional success, but at the same time it's the same result as "how to win friends and influence people" - whether you consider that to be an authentic self is up to you ## Highlights Your psyche is equipped with layer after layer of defense mechanisms designed to shoot down anything that might keep things from staying exactly where they are -- ask any addict. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s87fqf0btsxh2zgwr47zag)) Intentionally Interpreting Any Criticism as an Insult ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s87pt917m05hxhfr0jymya)) Focusing on the Messenger to Avoid Hearing the Message ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s87rkwdr5kyn0370jdfp8n)) Focusing on the Tone to Avoid Hearing the Content ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s87vgcr4cn07h4ayt6cf6q)) Revising Your Own History ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s88156nanj4vhkc9reasgn)) Pretending That Any Self-Improvement Would Somehow Be Selling Out Your True Self ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s88bh31sz6z8ydjd7x5rcq)) Delaying any self-improvement until the entire world changes to accommodate you ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s88qqgt6m3y41jj29tdcat)) Just remember, they're only expressing their own fear, since trashing other people's work is another excuse to do nothing. "Why should I create anything when the things other people create suck? ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s8a0dsj4q2q3r4eknhhn6f)) if they do produce something, they'll make sure they do it with detached irony. They'll make it intentionally bad to make it clear to everyone else that this isn't their _real_ effort. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s8aa0v9vxkd328v0vkfm9e))