--- ## Notes [[Managing stress]] [[Chronic stress]] ## Highlights I wonder how much the drive to push myself is really just a drive to make up for something that I feel is missing or inadequate—and whether pushing myself will actually fill the hole. I also sometimes wonder whether letting myself off the hook is just laziness masquerading as self-care. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2rn62qpmv7ragy1hgdvhxv3)) paying attention to the signs that tell you that you need a break ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2rn9dznj8j8yn4dsfcf03ya)) Increase your sense of control. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2rn9ys5gzmnxxj85d8psc6x)) When you’re facing mild to moderate stressors, ask yourself, _How can I increase my sense of control in this situation?_ You might find there are simple answers that will make you feel a lot better. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2rna5wshxh75myva7kv5tex)) Increase your sense of predictability. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2rna9mg9qx5wvwvtwrhm4sd)) When you see CEOs that keep their calendars clear and never do phone calls—you’re seeing the benefit of predictability in action. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2rnarq4y5rzk56v0vmxa6y9)) ### New highlights added June 12, 2023 at 7:22 PM Create outlets for frustration. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s6pm95vtaceg741x4t4xfq)) When rats that are exposed to repeated stressors are given a piece of wood to gnaw on, they are far less likely to develop ulcers. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s6r8dy01qnnx3f5tkq0bmt)) Increase social support. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s6r2gvs55br7t2rhxfrdwm)) parents of children who have been killed in war were no more likely to get disease or die—except if they were already widowed or divorced. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h2s6s3bvme01291ff99y1g41))