> [!INFO] Application Note > [[Models Application]] ## Introduction - Helps with promoting a new form of mascunlinity and personal development - Part 1 is related to female attraction - Part 2 is the strategy - Long-term growth - Part 3 is being long-term attractive - Part 4 is being courageous - Part 5 is effective communication - Seduction is based off emotions and movement, rather than words ## P1 - Reality ### 1 - Non-Neediness [[Non-neediness]] [[Overcome neediness by focusing on yourself]] #### [[Seduction]] [[Unhealthy relationships]] #### [[Attachment]] #### [[Narcissism]] ### 2 - Vulnerability [[Be genuine with your compliments to the point where you are nervous about making them]] ### 3 - The Gift of Truth - Trust and connection must be built beforehand before showing authenticity - Instantly simping shows desparation - Initial offerings like money and compliments don't show one's character - A form of manipulation #### [[Boundaries]] #### [[Clarify your intentions before looking to date]] #### Friction and Projection - Two reasons why women are not interested - Friction is when the connection you have with someone is impossible due to their already-existing commitments - Don't try to make people cheat on their partners - ex) Religion, culture, logistics - Projection is when girls project their previous encounters into negatively downplaying your intentions - Needy - By being authentic and seeking authenticity, we can find meaningful connections with the right people ## P2 - Strategy ### 4 - Polarization [[Polarization]] #### [[Levels of attraction]] ### 5 - Rejection and Success - Author is bold af - Roasted a girl for complaining about the unattractiveness of the guys that were hitting her up - You can't control people's reactions and emotions to you - Rejection is good since it helps polarize - Coming to terms with rejection comes from experience - Success = Maximizing happiness with our s.o. / women we prefer - Quantity over quality does not work out well in the success equation - Just chasing validation at that point ## 6 - The Three Fundamentals - Fundamentals include: 1. Creating an attractive and enriching lifestyle (Honest living) - Living a life we are passionate for - Environment, relationships, job 2. Overcoming fears and anxiety around socializing, intimacy, and sexuality (Honest Action) 3. Mastering the expression of your emotions and communication fluidly (Honest Communication) - Socially anxious men are good at communication and have decent lives, but don't seek opportunities - Socially disconnected people lack honest communication ## P3 - Honest Living ### 7 - Demographics - What kind of women do you want to meet and what relationship do you want with them? - You attract what you are - Going to a party won't be helpful if you're introverted and want more responsible women - Wtf this john description sounds kinda scary wtf - Expand and strengthen your interests to be more compatible with and attract more people - Age, money, and looks matter - Men physical appearance peaks at 31 - Men are assessed on style, grooming - The more naturally attractive we are, the less we have to make up for it with our actions and communication - Social proof helps raise a person's attractiveness - If everyone were to stop what they were doing to talk to you - Cultivated through leadership roles in our preferred demographics - Our actions and messages are amplified by our status - At the same time, don't focus too much on performing to the point where you are out of touch with your own identity #### Understanding your Type - What do you value the most? - Where would people like you go? - What do people like you like to do? #### Beliefs - Assortment effect - If we believe women are untrustworthy, then women who identify as untrustworthy will put up with what we're saying - Believing women enjoy sex will show in our actions, and let such people express their similar beliefs - People tend to conform to what we expect of them - Enabling ### 8 - Lifestyle and Presentation - Men judge women by physical appearance first, then personality and presentation second - Physical appearance isn't the most important thing as a man, but it still helps - Not putting much time into how we look demonstrates less self-investment #### Fashion - Rules 1. Wear clothes that fit - Sacrifices in comfort must be made 2. Wear clothes that match - Belt should match shoes and accessories - Dress pants should match pants - Socks when wearing jeans should match shoes - Have a brown and black set of shoes, belt, and jacket and put it on top of whatever you are already wearing 3. Dress to your personality #### Fitness - Don't focus too much on the specifics and just start #### Body Language 1. Consciously remember to not slouch shoulders forward 2. Look straight forward - Combined with step one tucks in stomach 3. Feet shoulder width apart - Caved in/out feet requires calf stretching 4. Swing shoulders and arms slightly while walking 5. Break eye contact only when others do first #### Vocal Tonality - Expression and loudness is as important as voice - We have two voices - Head voice - High-pitched, breathes through nose, from throat - Chest voice - Low-pitched, breathes through mouth, from diaphragm - Develop that chest voice babyy - Talk slower #### Character - Be unique from the rest of the crowd - Conforming shows lack of self-investment ### 9 - Stories - Anxiety can be morphed into arrogance and judging - Our subconscious defense mechanisms take on new forms and reasoning to protect our behaviors and underlying emotions and internal resistance to change - We need to question and challenge our resistance #### Defense Mechanisms - We have defense mechanisms for: 1. Approaching people and starting conversations 2. Stating sexual interest (phone number, dates) 3. Initiating sexual contact (first kiss) 4. Sexual intercourse - Our DM's are based on our insecurities and anxieties in that area - ex) Telling a girl you're anxious shows that you care about how others judge you ##### Patterns of Anxiety 1. Blaming external factors for their fear - ex) I got rejected because she has poor taste - Can lead to some harmful permanent beliefs 1. Apathy and avoidance - Convincing yourself that you don't care 1. Intellectualizing - Theorize and plan instead of actually doing stuff - Excuse for prolonging avoidance - Can put more pressure to perform ##### Curing Anxiety 1. Find the pattern to cure that makes us avoid fear 2. Create goals 3. Find accountability #### Lack of Sexual Motivation - Porn ruins our urge to seek women in real life ##### Nofap strategy - End all porn and block websites - Once a week ONLY, even more if you like being horny - Only allowed to masturbate to real women you've met - Use lotion/lube. slow it to 10 minutes ### 10 - Overcoming Anxiety - Women put in the effort to look good so they can find the right man - They don't immediately opt for rejection > The next time you make your move, when she sees you coming, know that she’s already rooting for you. Secretly, she wants you to succeed as much as you do. And for a moment, she’s your biggest fan. And your role as a man is to take action. It’s all on you. It’s always on you. You move things forward. #### Courage and Boldness - When doing something bold (approaching a group of 6 to talk to one person), you must show intention and acknowledge the randomness, or else you'll seem awkward - ex) "This is kind of random, but I thought you were cute and wanted to meet you" - The bolder you are, the more attractive you become - Enhances polarization - When in doubt, assert it out ## P5 - Honest Communication ### 11 - Intentions - Sub-communication is also communicating with your feelings and intentions - It is important to try to take into account the intentions of someone when they say something - Understand the difference between teasing and insulting, sharing experiences vs bragging #### [[Creepiness]] #### [[Flirting]] #### [[Emotional connection]] - Proportional one's self-awarenss of emotional processes and motivations - Women like a strong man who slowly opens up to them - Steps 1. Becoming aware of your own emotions, motivations, and life story 2. Initiating by sharing the above 3. Listen for her reciprocity 4. Repeat for deeper emotions and connection #### Habits - Consider your communication habits and room for improvement - ex) Eye contact - Just because something doesn't feel right doesn't mean it's bad, since we need to get used to the feeling ### 12 - Flirting #### First Impressions - Few minutes - "Hi, I'm John, I thought you were cute so I wanted to meet you" - Judged by presentation - Don't scare her - Simply walk up and acknowledge randomness - Spending excessive amounts of time thinking about what to say is obviously needy - Hesitation is bad - Smile, handshake???????? - Reasons for rejection include: 1. Poor presentation 2. Bad intentions - Talk with the intention of knowing them 3. Poor communication #### Conversation Skills 1. Using effective language - Don't intentionally add fillers like "um" when trying to sound confident - Use tone and pacing to not sound like a robot 2. Questions vs Statements - [[Use statements instead of questions for personality]] 3. Endless conversation topics - [[Good responses require jump-off points]] 4. Storytelling - You should be able to form stories from jump-off points, as well as provide some 5. Relating and Connecting - The main topics of conversation should be you and her - Everything, including inferred people, should relate back to either - Uncovering identity creates connection > Be willing to share any part of yourself to anyone at any time and on any level. You have nothing to lose by sharing yourself. #### [[Humor]] ### 13 - Dating Process - Meet -> Date -> Repeat until final verdict - Exclusive? Casual? Fuck buddies? Soul-mates? #### Texting Rules - Only ask for phone numbers if they are genuinely interested and you are genuinely interested - Just straight up ask, no need to be evasive or creative - Don't dwell on flakes - Three strikes - Test by seeing if they respond quickly - Wait a day before starting a conversation? - Judge the possiblity of a date based on interests - Just be blunt with texts, the creativity should be in the meeting - `Me: Hey Mary, it was nice meeting you tonight. Her: You too! :) Me (next day): Hey, you said you work until 4 PM, right? Her: Yes, do you still want to meet? Me: Yeah. How about 7:30? Her: Can we do 8? Me: Sure. In the city center? Her: Yes, in front of the X restaurant. Do you know where it is? Me: Yea, see you there. Her: See you soon. :)` #### Date Advice ### 14 - [[Physicality for intimacy]] #### [[Models signals progression]] ## Closing > Asking ourselves “What if it was a gift?", can help us find positives in unfortunate events - The biggest gift is our life, and we shouldn't disregard it by avoiding engagement ### Tasks #### Level 1 - Foundation 1. Join a gym 2. Upgrade wardrobe 3. Haircut 4. Job security 5. Find a stable hobby #### Level 2 - Meeting Women (4 of 5) 1. Figure out your personal demographics 2. Meet 5 women in a day 3. Meet 20 women in one week 4. Meet 10 women online 5. Speed dating #### Level 3 - Getting to Know Women (2 of 3) 1. Hold at least three 30-minute conversations 2. Get three phone numbers 3. Go on two dates #### Level 4 - Intimacy (2 of 3) 1. Kiss two women 2. Go on a second date 3. Bring someone back home #### Level 5 - Getting Sexual (2 of 2) 1. Have sexytime 2. Three first dates #### Level 6 - Bruh 1. Have sex in the same day you met someone 2. Have sex on the first date 3. Kiss three women in the first day