--- id: "90a4fe2f-4b07-4f2d-bbf1-d32c4178ea2e" Created: 2008-01-01 00:00 source: "" deleted: true --- ## Highlights - Males on average tend to be emotionally stunted compared to equal aged female counterparts. It typically comes down to how we were socialized early. - Male to male relationships tend to be more surface level (girls, gaming, sports, cars) and thus unfulfilling or limiting. - With women it's almost as if we allow ourselves to be more emotional, but since we so rarely unlock this quality, it's likely we'll misconstrue it with romantic interest. - ^ This can lead to awkward circumstances and potentially sabotaging the relationship. - Emotional men tend to be frowned upon, not entirely for being emotional, but often being too intense because it has been repressed or unheard for too long. - Even if kept platonic, if your female friend starts dating the chances are you'll get phased out for multiple reasons. - Similarly, if you start dating someone you tend to put all your eggs in one basket and fall off the face of the Earth with others too. - Childhood friendships tend to be the most likely to last and tend to have a forgivement clause built-in if you don't talk for months or don't connect that closely. - ^ This doesn't help you much meeting and connecting with new people. - For a lot of people, their only friend is their partner, although they may inherit friends through them. Subsequently they may lose that entire network if they break up. - I believe people are more incline to seek others out in moments of distress as people who are living happy and healthy lives tend to naturally attract others rather than actively seek them. General advice is if you're dating, consider finding double date or couple-friendships. If you're not dating, consider activity partners rather than focusing on some deep meaningful connection, especially early on. usually get on with females more often friends might only exist when you help them, and leave after