## Notes [[Self-Love]] ## Summary - distillation of all teachings - process, not the answer - tech is not the problem, a lack of self-love is - use it as a filter for your teachers - how much does it teach this? ### What is Self-Love? - The ultimate self, not as our selves but the awakened self we really are, the entire universe - when we do this, all the other problems will auto-correct themselves - we can't achieve this consciously, but first step is to have definitions for both Self and Love - But we won't make progress in understanding unless we have a mystical experience of the self and of love - Psychedelics, yoga, contemplation, breathing, meditation ### Self Love Benefits - overcoming physical qualities and limiting beliefs - social problems - if you were conscious to the point where you understand consciousness and the universe, you will always feel deep existential love - ex) just profoundly appreciating nature or an experience - maybe that's what olivia's parents meant by it's so easy for him to laugh at things? i can appreciate even the mundane and subtleties of everyday experience and find amusement from it? - if you are lacking something, when trying to get a partner you're always trying to get something from them - why signs of confidence are important - you are less prone to manipulate if you also care about them, being thoughtful - having so much charisma you can go to any busy bar and have a high chance of picking someone up - instead, have such a high level of self-love then you don't NEED others - arguments happen because they don't have enough Self-Love - equals - arguments melt away because it's a cooperative effort - Self-Love does not mean staying when other people harm you - collective best - in fact you know that it's best to cut it off because of boundaries, staying in an abusive relationship is not Self-Love - You want both people to grow - Your partner to not perpetuate - You so you can feel better - Self-Love is being understanding - complaining and blaming wastes your resources - People do silly things and accept it - his story - things stolen from car - jacket, blankets - meth addict capital, can see why they would do it, sad not for him that it was stolen, but sad that the social system in america causes people to do this - being able to connect with that level of detachment is self-love - at that point, it's hard for people to do wrong - if you really loved your work, you would love the entire situation beyond the work that needs to be done - body needs to be comfortable doing it, can't put yourself in a situation of overworking yourself or eating junk food - new career - it is practical - The reason why you work at starbucks is because you didn't love yourself enough previously, gotten there accidentally without planning - no sense of self, mission, etc - you want to contribute in a meaningful way - you could argue that you even work double because you care enough about yourself to get out of this situation, that you weren't living up to your potential - you care about yourself too much to harm your future self, to pay rent, etc - afraid of starting a business? more love - can't overcome fear with fear but love - love your vision so much, also love the world, for you to commit - the solution to fear is self-love - your payoff should be impact, but that requires you to want to self-actualize, to impact the world - sleazy people don't love mankind enough - if your job is currently inherently bad in terms of it's impact, to be capable of being a good person, you need to raise your level of self-love, beyond just needing a car and house, to help mankind as well - why am i negatively impacting the world when i could be creating something new that is better? - i can see why she pushed so hard on me staying at SAP, for the motivational asmr idea - then you can argue for my situation i'm not capable of someone who can make such an impact? so it's okay? - money problems is a self-love problem - when you are empathetic of others you are more self-loving - the reason why i have been less empathetic is because i have been prioritizing myself more fear and more serious, the more self love needed having a stronger ego makes it hard to accept self-love people fall through cracks so deeply, who can help them care about the world more if you dont provide self love as a parent, unhealthier sources will provide it like drugs and toxic relationships you say you love your child but do you accept them unconditionally? the point is that you should unconditionally accept the other person. if you dont feel like its possible then you can just move on? consciousness is the unfolding of self love it cannot wish or deny bad things about itself because it would be rejecting that the unit, A, is not A. we should be. the truth accepts itself as the truth how often do you recognize the importance of love? self love precedes charity responds to men being scared to come off as feminine by believing in this, saying that self love is the closest you can get to encompassing it because you are transcending beyond the perception of being a man narcisissm is small s self love every time you notice your wrist band, look at things youre judging. learn to accept these things as you, and love the Self which includes it. i love being myself, i love the whole situation how is self love lacking here? ## Notes ## Highlights <% tp.file.cursor(7) %>