## Highlights what is love ### attention and awareness - quality time physical touch and proximity connection - physical, intellectual, emotional, spiritual ### meet its needs shelter it from fear and drama that would cripple it gauge how much they can handle so you know what hurts and what helps want them to surpass you beyond your capabilities ### loyalty, having back make their agenda your own, make it an extension of yours, maybe make their entire psyche an extension of yours want for it what it wants for itself vulnerability, joining into other peoples vulnerable environments Golden rule be happy for their success, after all they're an extension of you if you feel resentment when they succeed, it means there is a division between you and them sacrifice for them on their behalf based on what they need encourage them to be their best - pursuit their own exploration and actualization respect sovereignty - same level total acceptance - dont even think about what you need or else that will cause ideation total appreciation - consciousness. but to appreciate Beauty you need to be much more mindful not needing anything from the other respecting their point of view, requires us to understand spirituality and not impose our own Listen and care about interests argues that you need to have some relatedness, cant do it only due to obligation be there for them, especially in their lowest times help the other person not feel lonely through connection validate their feelings share emotions need to be able to meet people where they are at - might not be as conscious instead of saying just do it understanding forgiveness - see god in the devil (their flaws) recognize its uniqueness verbal approval and praise keep promises maintain peace - lacj of conflict, 1-5 ratio. maintain peace is a form of love on its own cannot build love on deception, stay truthful and gain their trust parent needs to sacrifice themselves to let their child trust them recognize its realness, not as some idealization see and appreciate this finite form of consciousness despite its limitations dont get mad when they are selfish - your capability of love is how undisturbed you are by selfishness this was all about love = selflessness this is why high openness and low boundaries is important? the only thing is that you need to trust that you found someone also selfless how would an omniscient treat you? what breaks love? not making time for not listening changing other selfishness analyze what you enjoyed your parents did, identify the root what did you not enjoy what your parents did. take the opposite as the ideal when you get into a relationship yourself fish because you're trying to see someone who fits your needs, and if they don't necessarily what are close and you'll continue to think of them as someone who can potentially fit those needs, but it's important to recognize this early on and just appreciate them for who they are and realize that although they may not perfectly fit your needs, they're all so their own person and we should appreciate how much they already a compatible with us if you are low in development psychology they will be more selfish fundamental in being a parent, partner, and even loving yourself love is connection - having a deep life is to have connections with everything LOL to connect different parts of consciousness back together again we just need to have the discipline to do so we can start off shallow but then we will just naturally want to get deeper each time