--- ## Notes - [[Fulfilling moments are based on Maslow's hierarchy of needs]] - Naturally, most of our moments come from ages 18-30 since that is when we have a lot of our firsts ### Moments of Elevation (incorporate at least 2 of methods) - Increase sensory pleasure - Smell is strongest for memory - Raise the stakes - high rewards require long-term memory, which results in more attention on the moment - Rewrite the script - Transcend beyond traditions and routines to experience novelty - Find common scripts and routines in your life that you can add variety and more meaning to - > We feel most comfortable when things are certain, but we feel most alive when they’re not - Types of scripts - One-off events like hotel - Easier to - Repetitive, everyday experiences - don't make a new script - variable reward - Obstacles for elevation - We may not feel like elevating non-urgent moments - If they're important though, we should - Practicality may influence us to lessen it ### Moments of Insight - Put yourself in a situation to confront your own uncomfortable truths - Steps - Have a clear truth and conclusion you are aiming for - Have a short time frame for faster revelation - Usually requires us to push ourselves, which is best done by mentors since they have experience and know what is possible - Come to the realization yourself - Show, don't tell - Why observational learning is better - Reduce the influence of ego in the situation - Stepping out of comfort zone leads to self-insight, an understanding of your values, abilities, goals, and motivations - In [[Thinking fast and slow]], peak experiences are the reference points on moments, which we use to determine its cost for whether to do it again - Can't internalize the truth if you don't internalize the problem - Mentor others - Set high expectations - Express confidence - Provide direction - Assure support ### Moments of Pride - Celebrate small wins - Milestones - Create levels or find meaning in the tasks towards a goal - Recognition - Recognizing other people's accomplishments are memorable because of how little it's given in today's society - People value consistent recognition over final - Courage - Stand up for injustice or our beliefs - be proud that you are acting in accordance with values - To reduce friction of actualizing courage, have preloaded responses for common situations ### Moments of Connection - Create a shared moment - Shared pride - Allow for VOLUNTARY struggle - Allow for autonomy - Reconnect with the meaning, [[Start with why]] - [[Intimacy]] ## Queries ### Notes ```dataview list from [[]] AND !outgoing([[]]) AND !#input AND !#thought AND !"Hidden" sort file.mtime desc ``` ### Inputs ```dataview table Tags as Type, Links, Created from [[]] AND #input AND !"Hidden" AND !outgoing([[]]) sort file.mtime desc ``` ### Thoughts ```dataview table Created from [[]] AND #thought AND !"Hidden" AND !outgoing([[]]) sort file.mtime desc ```