- [[Attachment]] entails one's reliance on others for self-fulfillment - [[Attraction]] is inversely proportional to neediness - A lack of neediness resonates self-acceptance and a high self-esteem - ex) "I like the way he carries himself" - Being non-needy means the fulfillment of both needs ## Traits - Rather than for approval, non-needy people do things just for the pleasure - More investment in themself instead of the other person - Investment means the amount we sacrifice our personality for someone else's - Don't be phased by things, kind of [[Dichotomy of Control]] - Don't feel obligated to engage in social interactions - _to what extent is this just self-sabotage though?_