- We can overcome neediness by switching our thoughts to ones of high boundaries and self-esteem - Instead of worrying on what they think, wonder about if you still like them - Instead of wanting to impress, ask if they impress us - Instead of thinking on what to say to impress, think of what she might say to impress me - Instead of waiting for a call, find things to do - Instead of worrying about your appearance, question if they're hiding your true qualities - Instead of looking for intriguing conversations, see if she takes interest in the things you talk about - Instead of looking for her approval, think about whether they deserve yours - Instead of thinking about why they don't want to be with you, infer that it probably means you two weren't a good fit