- skip small talk - people are drawn to emotional vulnerability It's not about matching another's experience, it's helping them relive it Instead of saying you like something, put yourself into it > If you feel uncomfortable just reading that and imagining yourself saying something like it, then that’s good. That’s vulnerability. And ultimately, that’s what’s going to make you an attractive man who can emotionally connect with women. Instead of knowing about your interests, they will know you - Sharing relations is like taking their previous experiences and implying the same onto you This lets you understand people for who they are, their human side. You don't need to have the same interests as them - after all in a way they're just various faciliators for universal human [[Emotions]] - Emotional connections are stronger than common interests - ambition, shame, alienation, loneliness, achievement, regret, hardship, friendship, love, heartbreak - Finding such a common and personally vulnerable connection - Commitment is not necessary when talking about such topics This can be done by [[Emotionally connect with people]]