![[Servant Hedonism My Life Philosophy#^fc8jeh]] Still need to understand the nuances between this and [[Utilitarianism]] - we can't achieve this consciously, but first step is to have definitions for both Self and Love - we won't make progress in understanding unless we have a mystical experience of the self and of love - Psychedelics, yoga, contemplation, breathing, meditation - when we do this, all the other problems will auto-correct themselves - Can be used as a moral compass for how much you should care about content/something - [[Mindfulness]] is self-love - it cannot wish or deny bad things about itself because it would be rejecting that the unit, A, is not A. we should just be in [[Being mode]] - Reminds me of [[Agape]] According to [[Alex Hormozi]], is holding yourself to a higher standard than everyone else - once you learn how to improve your life, if you dont do it then you are simply self-sabotaging - alex accepts circumstances, but not complacency, he sees complacency as failure ### Misconceptions - narcisissm is small s self love ### Self - Self is the ultimate self, not as our selves but the awakened self we really are, the entire universe as [[Everything is connected]] ### Love - The collective benefit of the Self, usually promoting [[Long-term thinking]] - Makes it so you are not a people pleaser - For example, leaving a toxic relationship when you know it will negatively affect both of you. - You want both people to grow, and keeping yourself stuck there is not [[Self-Love]] - Your partner to not perpetuate - You so you can feel better - Does not mean hedonism or imbalance - allows for [[Self-transcendence]] - if you really loved your work, you would love the entire situation beyond the work that needs to be done - body needs to be comfortable doing it, can't put yourself in a situation of overworking yourself or eating junk food - The reason why you work at starbucks is because you didn't love yourself enough previously, gotten there accidentally without planning - no sense of self, mission, etc - you want to contribute in a meaningful way - you could argue that you even work double because you care enough about yourself to get out of this situation, that you weren't living up to your potential - you care about yourself too much to harm your future self, to pay rent, etc - It requires us to have [[Empathy]] - Not exploiting others for our own personal gain - Gives us courage through [[Optimism]] and [[Higher states of consciousness]] - if your job is currently inherently bad in terms of it's impact, to be capable of being a good person, you need to raise your level of self-love, beyond just needing a car and house, to help mankind as well - why am i negatively impacting the world when i could be creating something new that is better? ## Cultivating Self-Love - you start with yourself, then slowly ramp it up alongside other things you find close to you like partner, friends, work, then your city, social problems, etc - to love is to appreciate it's beauty and accept it - be conscious of amazing, magical, and surreal things are - everything is our own reflection, it is a part of our mind as we add our own subjectivity to the world. therefore our interpretations and experience of the world is a part of us - self love is transcending beyond conditional love into [[Unconditional positive regard]] - in conditional love your love isn't directed about the other thing, but for ourselves out of selfishness - so proof that people are narcissistic is if they have such levels of conditional love - you're loving parts of yourself - when your identity becomes one with the universe and your love becomes unlimited, that's when you feel awakened, feel most ecstatic - this is what a mystical experience is - Mindsets - how is self love lacking here? - i love being myself, i love the whole situation