From [[Aidan Weekly Call 2023-09-27]] - profound non-neediness to be able to help them even to the pointof them surpassing you - focus on potential - this is how i act when getting to know people for the first time - don't expect anything in return - nothing but respect - we have such an ideal self and are content with our day to day lives - what if our ultimate purpose in life is the ability to love - self-improvement, self-actualization is to do that better - love is selflessness - can't do it when needy - but then what is needy