A couple whose stories don't match is like two characters on one stage acting out different plays -- they may look fine at first glance, but there is an underlying lack of coordination to their interaction.
https://www.reddit.com/r/DeadBedrooms/comments/miqwfk/lovematch_theory/
## Commitment
- Wanting to stay together
- ex)
- Solely wanting commitment is an empty marriage
- Not wantin to
## Intimacy
- Mutually enjoying each other
- Fleeting but sharedness, wanting to be closer with the other person
## Passion
- [[Passion is not a heavy requirement in a marriage]]
- Feeling
- Choose people who have indicated an interest in you
- Do not be taken for granted but also do not play games
- ## I think passion refers to the feeling in the "honeymoon phase" of relationships
- ex) Where you want to spend any and all available time with your SO.
- Does not have to be sex - cuddling, seeing each other, impulsively texting
- A longing so strong to me with the one you love that it makes you chest hurt sound like passion to me and doesn't require any sexual stuff!